Discovering Your Core Values: A Personal Framework That’s Actually Useful

Back in fall 2019, I was at a major career crossroads. I had a few options in front of me—and no obvious winner. So instead of obsessing over job titles or salary bands, I sat down and did something I hadn’t tried before: I wrote out my core values.

What started as a decision-making tool ended up being one of the most grounding exercises I’ve ever done. I’ve returned to it again and again—every time something big shifts in work or life. Here’s how I approach it.

Start with the Brain Dump
Don’t overthink it. Just write. Jot down words, phrases, or ideas that matter to you—qualities you admire, the type of environments you thrive in, how you want to feel, what you want your life to be about. Some will be obvious. Some might surprise you. That’s the point.

You can score them if you want (1–10 is fine), but the real magic is just seeing it all out on paper.

Organize, Then Edit
Once you’ve got a big messy list, start grouping things into themes. Which ideas feel connected? Which ones come up more than once? Let yourself sit with it for a few days. Then come back and refine. Cut the fluff. Push for clarity. This part takes work—but it’s worth it.

Aim for a final list of 5–8 values. Ten max. Any more and it gets diluted.

And it’s not one-and-done. I’ve revised my list over time as I grow and shift. That’s normal. That’s healthy.

Look for the Superpowers Hidden Inside
This part comes last—and honestly, it’s the most fun. Once you’ve got your values, ask: What do these unlock in me?

For example, if you value impact and autonomy, maybe your strength is building something from scratch. If you care about integrity and clarity, maybe you’re a truth-teller—someone who asks the hard questions.

It’s a way of understanding what makes you you, and how to use that on purpose.

Final Thought
This isn’t just a career tool. It’s a clarity tool. Knowing your values helps you filter decisions, spot misalignment faster, and move through transitions with more confidence. Whether you're job hunting, launching something, or just trying to make sense of what’s next—this process helps you stay grounded in who you are and what actually matters.